11 Signs That You Are Not Ready For a New Relationship

Are you truly ready for that new relationship?

Many people think that they are ready to enter into a new relationship when in fact, they are far from ready. The thing is that, at some point in the relationship, the signs will surface.

This article is to bring your mind to the signs that indicate that you might not be ready for a new relationship, especially a serious one.

So, if you happen to relate to any of the stated signs below, then you might probably need to take a pause, reflect, and deal with the things that could affect your new relationship.  

Among many others, here are 11 signs that you are not ready for a new relationship.

1. You still feel something for your ex

Does your ex still hold a special spot in your heart?

Do you always feel pissed or jealous whenever you see him or her with someone else?

Still having feelings for your ex-girlfriend or ex-boyfriend will only hinder you from moving on with your life or starting a new relationship. Even when you eventually start something with a new lover, it will surely affect your relationship.

You have to let go of your past before committing to a new lover.

2. Still heartbroken

There is no way you can find a place in your heart to fall in love with someone while your heart is still shattered. Simply put, you are emotionally unstable and unavailable.

You will only transfer the pains and experiences of your past relationship into your present which is not healthy.

Before getting into a new relationship, you need to first allow yourself time to heal, position yourself in the right frame of mind and feel happy again. 

There is no way you can find a place in your heart to fall in love with someone while your heart is still shattered.

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3. Fear of commitment

A lot of things could hinder you from fully committing yourself into a new relationship. Most times, it’s usually associated with past experiences. If you can’t bring yourself to being with only one person for a long time or forever, then you are certainly not ready for a serious relationship.

If you can’t bring yourself to being with only one person for a long time or forever, then you are certainly not ready for a serious relationship.

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4. You are not happy with your life

Have you heard of the saying that “happiness comes from within”?

No one can do anything to satisfy you unless you first settle your inner troubles; else you may suffocate your new partner with the bad energy you emit.

If you are not happy with anything in your life, including yourself, health, work, etc., while you’re single, ensure to address the issue and strike a balance before considering something real with someone.

No one can do anything to satisfy you unless you first settle your inner troubles; else you may suffocate your new partner with the bad energy you emit.

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5. Looking for a saviour

Do you need someone to save you from your troubles and financial difficulties? You are definitely going in for all the wrong reasons. You need to understand the essence of dating. A healthy relationship requires you to give and not expect to receive- it’s selfless.

Confront and fix your challenges, find yourself, and ensure to have something to offer before jumping into a new relationship.

Confront and fix your challenges, find yourself, and ensure to have something to offer before jumping into a new relationship.

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6. You are too busy

I used to be in this category at some point, I never had time for my own self. I worked from Mondays to Saturdays and sometimes on Sundays. So there was little or no time to make out for my family and friends, talk less of a lover. I wasn’t just ready for the extra stress. This is the case of some persons. You can’t give what you don’t have.

7. Don’t like compromising

Are you the “do it my way or face the highway type”?

You don’t ever admit to doing wrong, put the needs of others into consideration, or reach an agreement.

This approach to life definitely has no place in a serious relationship. You might need to wait a bit longer before allowing someone into your life.

Sacrifice and compromise are key qualities that maintain peace in a relationship.

Sacrifice and compromise are key qualities that maintain peace in a relationship.

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8. You are desperate

Would you agree with me that “nothing good comes out of desperation”?

Yes, it is hard to make the right decisions in desperation. You might probably feel pressured to enter into a new relationship, probably to feel among, or please your parents, friends and the society. Maybe it’s the fear of growing old without having anyone to call your own.

Take a chilled pill and wait for the right moment. 

9. Engaging in serial dates

When you are not sure if someone is the right one for a relationship, you might not want to settle for only him or her. You are likely to engage in serial dates so as to probably stay on the safe side. This is not a good approach to starting something serious with someone.

10. You have trust issues

This is a major problem in our modern day relationship. There is no need for a relationship without trust. You can’t claim to love someone without trusting them or at least giving them the benefit of doubt. Why bother your head at the initial stage of a relationship when your spouse has not given you a reason to doubt them.

11. You simply don’t want to be in a relationship

Do you feel the need of wanting to focus on other aspects of your life? Is being in a relationship seeming like a distraction to reaching your life goals?

Then you are simply not ready to be in one, and so there is no need to force it. You are in no competition with others in being in a relationship.

What other signs do you know?

I would love to hear from you in the comment section below.

-xoxo-